Loneliness. This is something that plagues humanity (and me) with its thick empty dullness. Such an odd thing really, in a day and age where a human can surround oneself with a plethora of people or contraptions to make this feeling seem nonexistent. Yet, I know for myself it is still an ever present struggle and reality that I need to face. This bear of loneliness seems as though it is a virus out to kill the happiness in my world. My struggle seems to be non stop; that gut wrenching awful feeling. I feel so unequipped when this avatar of unhappiness tries to make a significant residence in my life. Thinking about bears of loneliness, a masculine character, Davy Crockett came to my mind. In this video clip he tries to "smile down a bear".
I remember watching this movie as a kid and loving it for some reason. Right now though this short clip really makes me think about how much the fear of being alone is like a bear, and as a man I want to face the hairy beast and win the battle. The epidemic of loneliness is relatively large if you were not aware. Go to google and type in "statistics of men and loneliness". There is significant data pointing to large amounts of loneliness in men.
It sometimes comes across to me that if I feel lonely, I am a weaker being. Somehow it feels implied that this bear is really a big red flag showing society that I do not have my ducks in a row and I am inadequate, when in reality it is an extremely normal thing. There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling lonely. I am immersed in the wild nature of my life and it just so happens that an old grizzly bear lives in my neighborhood. Luckily I am learning to recognize this beast and resist it. What does that look like you might be asking? The first thing I have found helpful is being aware of the fact that I am lonely. This awareness alone is a stab at the bears heart. The next thing i can do, once I am conscious of this furry thing, is either externally verbalizing it to myself or talking with a friend. I will say though there are days when I don't win, but I am becoming a more skilled warrior from my failures. At the end of the day the willingness to fight this emotion is what holds top priority. Passivity will not serve you well if you are in the grasps of its claws.
What do you do to fight the bear of loneliness?