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The art of a genuinely-placed compliment to women is an essential skill of a well-rounded man. I am no professional, but I have seen the fruit from taking cognitive action in this arena withing my own life. So, I wanted to share what I have learned.
Taking the time to compliment those around you will give you a tangible experience on the power of your words.
So the following points are ways and things to consider when complimenting a woman or other human being. I hope you enjoy.
+ Body Language.
You need to think about your body language. Are you slumped over and seeming shameful, or are you upright and relaxed? Will you be looking this person in the eye? Or, will you be looking at the ground? These are all things you need to take into consideration, because not only is your goal to make the other person feel good about whatever you are about to highlight, you also want to make sure they think that you are safe and trustworthy. (Click Here For More Ways To Improve Body Language)
This can be a big deal, because often even when men want to deliver a genuine compliment their body language will create a negative expectation of what is about to transpire.
So while you are interacting or before you start to think about your body language and what you want it to say as you are communicating.
+ Put yourself in their shoes.
Positional thinking is a potent tool that you can use in many situations of life, but in these scenarios, it is merely to help empower you to compliment others. It's basically this. Put yourself in the other person's shoes.
So take a moment and do that!
If you came up from behind them where they couldn't see you how would that make them feel? If the tone of your voice was deafeningly loud how would they interpret that?
Then, take a moment and think about how compliments make you feel when they are well placed and take into consideration that you might turn someone’s day from a bad day into a happy day.
Often times even when I am interacting with a customer service rep or attendant at an airport, I work hard to compliment these individuals as they are often having a bad day.
So join me in making the world a better place by thinking about the other person and how they might feel.
+ How to focus and be articulate.
Yep, that is right, in order for any of this rudimentary information to work, you will need to be specific on what you decide to compliment the other person on.
Vague compliments like these help no one.
- "You seem nice."
- "You're so cool; you're like a dude in a girl's body."
- "I love how you just don't care what you look like."
THESE ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH.
Taking the time to notice a small detail and express that you saw and appreciate it, this will carry you a long way.
Examples of what good focused and articulate compliments look like.
- "I have watched and observed your attitude when faced with difficult and hard situations, and it is very inspiring to see you stay positive."
- "When you walked into the room I could not help but notice your jacket and how amazing it looks on you."
- "I am not sure if anyone has ever said this to you before, but your voice makes me wonder why you do not have your own podcast."
- "Your smile brightens my day."(Note: being focused and articulate does not mean it has to be a lengthy statement.)
So the next time you see a beautiful woman, or your friend did something thoughtful, take the time to gather your thoughts and then articulate a compliment appropriately.
+ How to complement a woman’s apparel.
Under the umbrella of apparel, there are three main categories that I feel you could focus in on. Accessories, Clothing, & Shoes.
When you see a bracelet, shirt, or shoes that really stick out to you, these are all things to pick out and highlight to the candidate.
Here is the thing, though, when you are about to compliment someone on a piece of apparel they are wearing take into consideration the following.
- Will your comment be interpreted as flirtation? Do you want this?
- Do not bring up the monetary value of an article being worn.
- Is this article on or near an area that is socially frowned upon to acknowledge publicly?
Alright, I am going to give you some examples of what to and not to say in those three categories. This is all based on the perspective that this is your first interaction with the opposing party.
- Accessories:
Examples of what not to say.
- "That watch looks great! I bet it cost you a fortune."
- "Man that beautiful necklace makes your breasts stick out.
- "That hat would look good on me."
Examples of what to say.
- "That bracelet caught my eye, it is stunning I like how it pairs well with your outfit."
- "Your hat selection is on point; you subtly made yourself stand out with it in a graceful way. It is inspiring."
- "Those earrings are striking; they make your eyes pop."
- Clothing:
Examples of what not to say.
- "Those jeans make your ass look great."
- "I love how tight that shirt is on you."
- "That jacket turns me on."
Examples of what to say.
- "That shirts colors are stunning, do you always wear beautiful colors?"
- "That sweatshirt looks so comfy! It makes me want to go get one for myself."
- "I enjoy the style of clothing you are wearing; it emanates positivity."
- “Those socks are fun and cute! I just thought you should know.”
- Shoes:
Examples of what not to say.
- "Those shoes look great, but were they worth the money?"
- Honestly, I am not sure how you could mess up complimenting someone's shoes.
Examples of what to say.
- "Those shoes are so cool! How long have you had them for?"
- “Wow! I just noticed your shoes, and they look great on you!”
- "Are you sure you are not a shoe model?"
+ How to compliment a woman’s body.
The following categories are some simple areas to compliment a woman on without coming across as creepy in my opinion. Now to reiterate what was said earlier, think about how you are approaching this conversation and what the other person might think.
There are many exceptions to what is and what is not appropriate when it comes to giving a compliment. You need to be socially aware and if you are unsure what is suitable for your circumstances always lean on the safe side or don't say anything at all.
Once again the following examples are to help get your brain going in the right direction. I hope it helps.
- Muscles
Examples of what not to say.
- "Your abs are sexy."
- "I can't keep my eyes off your ass."
- "Is there a part of you that is not sensual?"
Examples of what to say.
- "It looks like you take care of your body, well done."
- "How often do you work out because you are in great shape."
- "I just wanted you to know seeing you has inspired me to start working out again."
- Hair
Examples of what not to say.
- "Is that a fresh cut because it looks amazing?"
- "You must spend a fortune on your hair because it is gorgeous."
Examples of what to say.
- "Your hair looks so healthy! Are you a hair consultant perchance?"
- "I saw your stunning hair from across the room, keep up the good work."
- Tattoo's
Examples of what not to say.
- "That butterfly makes me want to look at your butt."
- "How often do people comment on that cross by your shoulder?"
Examples of what to say.
- "I like the style of that flower, and it compliments your look well."
- "The tattoos on your arm are some of the best pieces of art I have seen in a while."
There are many other approaches we could take on how to give good compliments, but I think this should be enough to help men learn how to compliment well.
Let me know what your favorite thing to do is when you give out compliments!?
Cheers,
Timothy
