The Man Effect

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Why I want men to let certain dreams die.

I was recently asked by a friend jovially what the quote of the day was, in response I thought I would attempt to create something original and out came this remark, "The best fertilizer for a new dream, is the carcass of an old one." 

As these words came to my mind and I found myself communicating them, I discovered it resonated deeply with where I am at personally in my journey. 

When reflecting over the past few years I can genuinely say and see that if I did not allow some old dreams to die, new ones would not have begun to grow, and the goals that I did pursue and later died. These empowered me to have opportunities I could never have imagined; they taught me lessons that opened doors which I was unaware of. 

Letting go of my dreams initially was terrifying, but when I decided to put a couple of them to rest and embark upon developing new ones, more glorious ambitions were uncovered than I thought possible. 

So you might be asking how do you know which dreams to let die so you can make room for new ones. Well, this is my opinion. If you are not willing to do ANYTHING for your dreams to happen, then you should let it go. What do I mean by this? Simply this. 

What are you willing to do for them? Are you ready...
- To push through discomfort
- Ask 1.5 gazillion questions about how to attain it
- Stay up at night figuring out ways you are going to make it happen
- Risk being wrong
- Possibly losing close relationships

 
Those are just a couple of examples that came to mind right now. So after evaluating what you currently hold to as a dream, ask yourself if you want it bad enough to do all of the above things mentioned. 

Ask yourself, "Are my dreams my comfort or my catalysts to growth?" That question also could be a tool to sift through that which you do and do not want.

So take a moment today, evaluate your dreams and aspirations. If they do not inspire you to new potential limits than find one that does. I see some people have an unhealthy attachment to some dreams that were developed at a young age. Sometimes the 6-year-old dream needs to be set aside to make room for a better one.  

"All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them." 
~ Walt Disney ~

I would love to help provoke men to live passionate, inspired lives, and I know that this will not happen if they do not have a vision for their life that they are willing to take big risks for. So, I hope this prods at least one person to stop being passive and find a dream that pushes him to new limits.

Cheers,

Timothy

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