I am not sure about you but the people who complain about life, circumstances, or just anything, in general, they come across as helpless little children who need to leech from the strength of more stable individuals in society. I thought this topic might be a bit appropriate to discuss due to the political climate that we are immersed in, in this day and age. I believe it is important to be conscious of words and take each day with a sense of intention rather than passively letting life roll by. Below are a few reasons I feel necessary for men to think about before they commit the childish act of complaining. I hope to reduce this reaction in my life, and I hope you do as well.
1: Complaining is a product of the victim mentality.
There is nothing wrong with being aware of the difficulty of a situation but the very microsecond you decide to give in and complain about your struggle you have chosen to believe you are a victim and not a victor. Let's take more time to think about our thoughts before we start vomiting our childish feelings all over those around us. To initiate the fight and be aware of one's own thoughts is a massive step in a direction I hope all men choose to take. Aligning yourself with the mindset of complaining is you declaring that you do not believe the situation can be changed and that you are a powerless individual.
"Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining - it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn't solve any problems." ~Zig Ziglar
2: Complaining is a waste of time.
Not much else to say here other than the people who have time to complain about situations most likely are not on a track to doing a productive society contributing act. Sure there are always exceptions but when was the last time you met someone who was a chronic complainer, and you thought to yourself "Hot damn, I cannot wait for this individual to change the world."
"Complainers change their complaints, but they never reduce the amount of time spent in complaining." ~Mason Cooley
3: Complaining is a blame game.
If you want to come across as a responsibility-dodging boy, keep complaining, if you want to take ownership and action in life fight complaining like it is a terrorist in your hometown who is holding a gun to your best friends head. This shit is real. If you treat it any other way, you will fall into the cauldron of the debaucherous incestual complaining cult. If you want to blame your boss for not paying enough, I guess you have that right to be ignorant enough to overlook the fact that you are the one who chooses to go to work every day.
"In our society, the sound of men complaining is like nails on a chalkboard." ~Warren Farrell
4: Complaining attracts complainers.
Something I have noticed throughout the years is you attract what you are. Do you want to draw a bunch of apathetic down on life individuals who complain a ton, or do you want to attract people who are motivated and willing to work through hardship? In the construction industry, it is my observation that those who complain their whole world is a train wreck, their jobs go sour, their attitudes or on a constant downward spiral, and their customers never seem happy. The environment of whining construction workers is toxic and annoying as hell.
"Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do." ~Benjamin Franklin
5: Complaining pushes away people you love.
If you take the time to observe those around you an interesting thing will be noticed. Complainers drive away those who do not associate with that tendency. It is literally like vomiting. When was the last time you wanted to be around someone who was physically vomiting? Probably never.
"Complaining not only ruins everybody else's day, it ruins the complainer's day, too. The more we complain, the more unhappy we get." ~Dennis Prager
6: Complaining teaches you to focus on the negative in every situation.
If all you do is look for negativity, you will find it. Complaining about projects, politics, or just life, in general, teaches you to focus in on the part of reality that does exist but teaches you to have tunnel vision and not see the whole picture.
"What we need to do is always lean into the future; when the world changes around you and when it changes against you - what used to be a tail wind is now a head wind - you have to lean into that and figure out what to do because complaining isn't a strategy." Jeff Bezos
7: Complaining is a negativity magnet.
If you have some time read a few articles from the medical and psychology realms on the adverse effects of complaining, needless to say, there is not a positive influence on one's brain if complaining is a habit.
"Many of our choices have led to the predicaments we are presently complaining about." Monica Johnson
I know for my life when I stopped complaining and took ownership of my existence, stuff stopped being stagnant, and when I started to do this my internal world was significantly transformed. I hated my job but complaining wasn't helping me one bit. I realized I was the one who chose to get up every day and go into my employment to exchange my time for money. Complaining about this only sustained my agony rather than changing it. I hope you choose to stop complaining and move through the stagnant seasons of life.
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I hope you join me in this war on complaining.