Have you ever had the thought, "If only I were more confident as a man then I would get that raise at work, the pretty girl would give me attention, or I would be able to pitch my business idea and find investors."
Let's be honest at some point in life if you probably had some form of thought along those lines.
The desire and value of confidence is something spread far and wide throughout men. Sure they might not overtly say, "I wish I was more confident." But the thought is there.
I have yet to meet a man who doesn't desire to feel confident in his skin and men who already feel confident I am sure they wouldn't mind a little more. I mean come on... that is like every mans dream; to feel a massive sense of confidence and exude it for others to see and feel.
So in general, when thinking about our life and style, the level of our confidence influences the decisions we make. Take a moment and ask yourself this, "When was the last time I chose not to do (Fill in the blank) was because I was not confident enough?" I think you may be surprised if you honestly assess yourself with this question.
"Over a year ago I managed to lose approx 50lbs and ended up getting in the best shape of my life. It was right after a book worthy divorce which murdered my appetite and ability to sleep, but that's another ball of wax. As I've spent three to four days a week in the gym, I've been noticing a lot about men. We're ridiculous. It's ironic that most guys are visually oriented, so we're constantly looking at ourselves in the mirror (yes me too) which allows us to witness genuine progress. It's weird to me, guys with the biggest biceps or upper body get the most respect or are the most intimidating to others. Women assimilate those big arms and chest to a man who is strong. Maybe she'll feel protected or safer with him. Maybe she wants to be next to something substantially bigger than her, or maybe it's all a bunch of insecure crap. Now I'm not the big guy nor will I ever be as a measly 5'10" weighing in at 190lbs. I'm happy with myself. It's funny, my trainer (an Olympic track coach, so leg day is no fun) told me once, "Ya know, most these guys train only the stuff you see not their legs, hips, lower back, and core. This is the stuff that creates insane real strength in a man I assure you. A man with strong hips, legs and core is to be feared." Then he showed me why and I get it...
Let’s be honest. Everyone under the sun could use a boost in confidence. Women find it attractive. Men crave it. The world in general would benefit if people would just take a little time to intentionally focus on becoming confident. As with anything, though, you need to figure out and decide for yourself what will work best. Here are some general ideas I have learned work best for me.